There are times when getting back with your ex may not be the best idea, after all. Here are five reasons when it doesn’t make sense trying to mend your fallen relationship:
X - If the relationship is toxic in the first place
If your ex is abusive—whether physically or verbally, do not get back with him. You do not deserve to be with someone who doesn’t respect you and only wants to put you down.
A toxic relationship is not just about abuse. Gaslighting or manipulation is also considered a characteristic of an unhealthy relationship. Say your partner does not let you go out with your friends and only wants you for himself, that’s a sign that you should stay away.
X - If you’re missing the relationship and not the person
There could be times when you might feel lonely, and you miss having someone by your side. At these moments, you might be missing having a relationship, but not the person you want to be in a relationship with.
Before you decide that you want to get back with your ex, you must be sure that it is him that you want, not the act of having a relationship. You have to remember the reason why you and your ex broke up in the first place and see if it’s worth it. Because you know, you could easily have a relationship with another guy.
X - If you’re sure that you’re living a better life without him
After gaining some independence, you will arrive at a stage where you will realize that you are happier without your ex. If this is you, and you’re sure that you’re living a better life without him, just keep on doing what you’re doing and don’t get back together with him. Yes, there may be some lonely nights, but it doesn’t mean that you still need him in your life.
X - If you think that you and your ex won’t ever compromise
Leaving the problem unaddressed would keep it popping up from time-to-time. If your ex refuses to change some of his habits or adjust some things for you, then honey, he’s not worth it! There is someone out there who will respect you and will value you more than him. It’s his loss, not yours!
X - If he has found another woman
If there is another woman involved in your break-up, then getting your ex back would be a real challenge. If he broke up with you for that woman, then there’s only a slim chance of you and him getting back together.
If he has found another woman a few months after your break up, we suggest you try and move on. Yes, it is still possible to get him back. However, you really wouldn’t want to be the reason why a relationship was destroyed.