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Our Review

Developed by BitLove Inc. in 2008, Fetlife is an adult dating site heavily inspired by the personal sexual interests of the site's developer. It focuses on the world of sexual fantasies like BDSM, fetishism, and kink. They also claim that the development and support team of the site share the same interest, which makes them more dedicated to making the website better.

Members are free to use most of the features of the site. But the site also promotes that they are accepting "support" which gives members additional privileges for a small fixed amount. However, it is billed in bulk and not by month.

Since people are becoming more aware of their fantasies, many members add up to the total population of the site every month. Eight million members all over the world can engage in group conversations or private messages.

The functions and features of FetLife are very similar to the popular social networking site Facebook, like the adding of friends, following other members, and posting to another members' wall. Messaging is free just like messenger and IG direct messages.

There's more to FetLife than meets the eye. In this in-depth review, we took a closer look at this dating site to see if it is worth investing your time and money into.

New members at FetLife in July 2024 in comparison

Here you can see how membership figures at FetLife are developing compared to others

FetLife Members

14,000 from Singapore
Members activity
200 new members per month
Gender Proportion
25 %
75 %
  • The whole community is made up of like-minded individuals who want to explore BDSM, Kink and Fetish world
  • Members from the United States make up more than half of the total FetLife population
  • Males dominate the site
  • Newbies to the Kinkster community are welcome to register
  • Most of the members are between 25-34 years old

As mentioned, the site's foundation is based on the sexual interests of the creator of the FetLife. This roots from having difficulties in finding a woman who will share sexual fantasies with him. Using the site lets members access an extensive database of like-minded individuals who share similar views about the Fetliife BDSM, Kink, and Fetish communities. They can also meet those who are newbies or are interested in trying.

More than half of the members of FetLife come from the United States. The significant number of members exists because people are becoming more open to these kinds of set-ups. They like to explore their sexualities and try new ways of spicing up their sexual lives.

Based on data, more members are males. Almost 3/4 of the whole population are men. However, it doesn't mean that there are very few female members. A quarter of the total number of members is still equal to around two million members around the world.

Don't hesitate to register if you are still new to the concept of BDSM, Kink, and Fetish. One of the purposes of groups is to discuss topics and learn new things from each other. You may opt to read the public comments silently, or you can actively participate in the discussions. 

Meet members who are mostly millennials between the ages of 25-34 years old. This is expected since this age group is composed of members who are very familiar with the use of technology. They are also at the age where they are independent enough to explore their sexualities without thinking of other people's criticisms. 


FetLife Age Range and Age Distribution

  • 18-24
  • 25-34
  • 35-44
  • 45-54
  • 55+

How to Sign Up for FetLife

FetLife Register
  • Signing up is free
  • Not-so-strict registration process
  • Provide your email address and some necessary information to sign up
  • Verify your account with your mobile number
  • You cannot link your account to other social media accounts to register

The signup process of Fetlife is easy. Just provide some basic information like your nickname, gender, sexual orientation, role, birthdate, location, and email address to create your account. It's free, and you wouldn't be asked for any payment-related information.

It is required that you type in your mobile number where the site can send the link to verify your account. You can also retrieve your account using your provided email an mobile number in case you forget your login details.

You can't use your other social media accounts to register. However, you can post the link to your social media accounts on your profile so your friends can easily look you up on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and the likes, should you wish to do so.

Making Contact on FetLife

FetLife Messaging
  • Message other members for free
  • Search bar helps you easily find who you are looking for
  • Meet other members through the explore tab
  • Sending messages has a similar format to sending simple emails

You may search for other members using the FetLife search bar located at the top-left of any page in FetLife. You may also find random members on the explore tab and groups.

Some members are responsive; some are not. Be careful about who you are messaging and how you message them because some of them can respond rudely. Better read their profiles first and check if they have some guidelines before you try to connect with them.

You can view the photos and videos of other members manually for free. However, if you give support, the images and videos will be filtered as most loved or the most recent ones.

Be ready to see sexually explicit content like nude photos and videos of members doing some acts. If you are not comfortable yet with it, you can choose other profiles with just the right content for you.

If you experience being harassed or disrespected by any members, feel free to add them to your blocked list. You can do this by visiting their profiles and click on the "block member" option.

Search for members around your area by clicking on Perv Kinkster Nearby on the conversations page. Make sure that your location is accurate so the site could give you the correct results too.

Unlike most dating sites, sending messages in FetLife is free. Just go to the profile of the member that you want to message and type the text on the message box which is similar to an email format. It is straightforward and has a simple layout. 

To view your previous conversations, you may check your inbox, archive, and sent messages. 

FetLife Profile Quality

FetLife Profile Info
  • Fill-out six tabs of information sheets to complete your profile
  • Uploaded photos and videos are automatically displayed on your page
  • Your activities will be shown on your profile
  • Let your friends write on your wall and format their post the way they like
  • Friends and followers list can be found on the profile page

    You can share as much information as you want on your profile. The profile page can be edited in six parts. 

    On the first tab, you can edit the information you've encoded upon registration. You can also add your interest or what you are looking for in a partner.

    The second tab is for a short narrative about yourself. You can format the text to make it more presentable and enticing. 

    Add your relationship with another member of FetLife on tab three. However, you may only do this if you are friends with each other on the site.

    Tab four is for the websites that you want your friends to visit or checkout. Just put the links and people who click on it will be redirected there.

    The fifth and sixth tab is for the uploading of photos and videos, respectively. You may directly email your photo on your profile. There's also an option where you send it on your unique email address which would save it automatically to your profile. For videos, the maximum size that you can upload is 5GB.

    Your activities on the site will be shown on your profile. You have the option to keep your profile private. This setting is recommended to filter out the people who can view your profile for security purposes. But if you prefer to be open and would like to be popular on the site, disable that function and have as many followers as you want.

    Members can also post on your wall and format them the way you edit your bio. You may also do this if the member is your friend or has a public profile. 

    Expect to see empty profiles or complete ones. Since it is not compulsory to complete the profile information, members have their option of being discreet about their real identity or they can be as open as they want with their identities.

    It is not easy to detect fake members. However, if you notice something unusual about an account, you may report it directly to the support team. 

    Lastly, view the list of friends and followers on the left side of the main profile.

    FetLife App

    FetLife App
    • FetLife App can be downloaded in .APK format for Android phones from fetlife.vip
    • Not available on Google Playstore and App Store
    • Mobile version can also be accessed using different browsers
    • All app, desktop, and mobile versions are simple and easy-to-use
    • Around 70% of the members prefer using the app/mobile version compared to the desktop version

    FetLife has an app version available only for Android phones. However, it can't be downloaded from the Google Playstore. It is available only in .APK format and the link can be found on the fetlife.vip website.

    For iOS users, they may opt to use their browsers such as Safari, Google Chrome, Mozilla Firefox, and the likes to download the .APK version

    All the three versions-- app, desktop, and mobile versions, are simple and easy-to-use. 

    Based on usage data, 70% of the users prefer to access the site using their mobile phones. It may be due to the convenience of having the phone anytime and anywhere. On the other hand, the desktop version is a convenient choice for members who are just always at home.

    It is possible to send and receive messages in the app version. However, there's a time-out for you if you've reached the maximum number of sent messages and requests. This case happens most especially when you send messages to anyone even if you don't know them personally). The time-out lasts for a few hours.

    Notifications can be turned on to keep you updated on the discussions and happenings in FetLife. 

    Other functions are the same as the desktop version, so don't worry about going back and forth your phone and desktop to check things out.

    Lastly, you can be discreet about having the FetLife app on your phone. Change the setting of the app to show only the generic logo as an icon.

    Overall, people are satisfied with using the app compared to the desktop site.

    FetLife Costs and Prices

    Free Features
    • Messaging
    • Viewing of Photos and Videos
    • Join Groups
    Premium Features
    • A sexy I Support FetLife badge on your profile.
    • Perv today’s most loved pictures and videos
    • Go back 25x further in your Friend Feed.

    Is FetLife expensive or cheap?

    In comparison to other providers FetLife is low-priced.

    Duration / Credits / CoinsCostsTotal
    6 Months5.00 USD / Month30.00 USD
    12 Months5.00 USD / Month60.00 USD
    24 Months5.00 USD / Month120.00 USD
    Payment Options
    • Bank Transfer
    • Credit Card
    • Direct Debit
    • GiroPay
    • Paysafecard
    • Bitcoin

    In FetLife, members don't pay for a premium membership. They give "support" to the site by donating a specific amount per month. But the minimum number of months is six months. They don't have the option for monthly support because they say that they need to collect donations to sustain the site.

    Members who send their support through their credit cards will receive billing from BitLove Inc., and not FetLife. 

    The support is not on auto-renew mode. So if you wish to have continuous access to additional privileges, you may manually do it yourself.

    Here are the additional privileges for supporting members: 

    • Have an "I Support FetLife" badge on your profile (you may hide the badge if you want to keep it discreet)
    • Perv (view) most loved and recent photos
    • Videos and discussion topics
    • Reminisce and view all the contents that you've "loved"
    • Design your feed however you like it to be
    • Be one of the firsts to access new features of FetLife.

    Lastly, there is a "Lifetime Support" option that you can avail for only USD 240. 

    Special Features

    The features of FetLife are just simple. However, there's one feature that makes it different from regular dating sites:


    This feature lets a member explore the fetishes that he or she is interested in. By clicking among the choices of fetishes (there are more than 60 of them), you will be redirected to the list of members and groups with the same interest. There's also a list of related fetishes that you might want to check out too.

    Our rating

    Signing Up: 3.5 / 5
    Making Contact: 4.0 / 5
    Profile Quality: 3.5 / 5
    App: 3.0 / 5

    Editor's Conclusion

    Datingscout.sg Author Chris Pleines
    Chris Pleines
    Founder of Datingscout and Author of the book "Online Dating for Dummies"
    FetLife offers an effective way for its members to open up about their sexuality and sexual fantasies. It helps them embrace their innermost desires and others as well. It has tons of members all over the world. However, if that isn't your cup of tea, you might want to check out dating sites instead.

    FetLife FAQ


    I am not satisfied with the FetLife. Can I get my money back?

    The site has a 7-day return policy. However, it is only applicable if you send your support through any of the payment options, except the following: Gift card Trade-In, POLi, Paysafecard, or Bitcoin.                                                    

    What kind of sexual fantasies are not allowed in FetLife?

    FetLife doesn't allow pedophilic fantasies, incest, zoophilia, necrophilia, scat, and animal cruelty.

    Why can't I add my partner on a relationship status in FetLife?

    Make sure that you are friends with your friend in FetLife before adding them to your relationship list.

    Can I delete a photo that I uploaded in FetLife?

    Yes, you can delete a photo that you've uploaded. Click on the picture and the link to remove it will be shown there.

    What kind of video formats are allowed to be uploaded to my FetLife profile?

    Any video file can be uploaded. If you are having a problem with uploading, you may email the support team.

    What is "perv"?

    Perv in FetLife means you check out, view, or see something.


    Is my "support" to FetLife automatically renewed every month?

    No. You renew your support manually. 

    How will my FetLife support appear on my credit card bill?

    The billing will show BitLove Inc.

    Can I give support to other FetLife members?

    Yes, you can. On the send message option, you'll find "Gift Support." Just click on it and send your little gift.

    Can I send support for just a month?

    No, FetLife support is for a minimum of 6 months.


    Who should I contact if I have questions regarding my privacy in FetLife?

    For any questions regarding this matter, send an email to privacy@fetlife.com.

    Can I delete the information that I've already submitted to FetLife?

    Yes, simply go to "Edit Profile" and "Settings" page to edit or delete the information.

    I don't want to be a part of FetLife anymore. Can I delete my account?

    You can delete your account permanently or just deactivate temporarily.

    Is it safe to use FetLife?

    Using FetLife is safe since all the information you shared is encrypted. Also, your deleted information is automatically deleted on their servers as well.

    Are there fake or scam members on FetLife?

    FetLife claims to do its best to prevent such kinds of members from existing on the site. However, you may report it to them if you notice some unusual profiles so they can check.

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    Company:Bitlove Inc.
    Address:Suite 125, 718333, Brooksbank Avenue, North Vancouver, British Columbia, V7J 3V8